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Best online dating opener

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I tried the Dating Hacks app using Bumble, lauded as feminist-friendly because women must make the first move by messaging a new connection before the match disappears after 24 hours.

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So here’s the thing; some women might tell you that a simple “Hi, how are you doing? But in all honesty, unless you follow a generic message like this up with something mighty funny or mighty interesting the chances of you getting anything more than a couple of polite responses are slimmer than one of those Victoria Secret models. One of my favorite ways to open on Tinder is with something funny.So seriously do yourself a favor and stay away from anything that you wouldn’t say out loud to a person in real life. Like: Part of the fun of Tinder is that it’s just so damn fast.So don’t be the party pooper that sends a page-and-half long essay as your first message. Stop asking if it hurt when we fell from heaven and just start a normal conversation. A cheesy pick-up line or a douchey comment makes you look like an arse. We've got to give these guys credit for at least making us laugh.

It's not easy approaching girls, what with our high standards, resting bitch face, and what not.

Game is more than finding the right line at the right time. As I wrote in “Build a Better Life,” game is also scaffolding one uses to support the creation of our best selves. My profile is built out with excellent pictures and few words.

Pictures include scenes of me working shirtless in the yard, at the gym doing a muscle up, me in suits, and me doing some cool outdoor shit. If some girl calls me out on copying one of you guys later down the road, I’ll be proud.

•Go ape-shit on her if she doesn't reply immediately.

Saying a simple, "hi", "hello," or "whassup," makes you easy to ignore and forget. If your ego is sore because she didn't respond, an 'unmatch' is all that is needed. Asking if she wants anal in your first sentence isn't the way to go.

You see, at the end of the day the first message isn’t really about what you say. So if you can get a girl giggling from the get go you’re off to a great start.