Truth about being overweight and dating
I talked to the three individuals who played a role in starting the hashtag about why.
I’ve already lost 15.”Thomas’ story supports the dominant cultural narrative, which holds that the woman who gets rejected in favor of someone “smaller” is already thin/slim.About a month ago, one of my sisters tagged me in a video she recorded of Family Feud—a game show where two families compete for a cash prize by trying to find the most popular answers to a variety of questions.On the episode of the daytime game show she recorded, host and comedian Steve Harvey asks the contestants to answer a rather loaded statement: “Name a reason a woman might decide to be with a chubby [or fat] man.” This, as one might imagine, ends up being a rather humorous round for the contestants, Steve Harvey, and the audience.And yet even when the number of people who are considered overweight form the majority of the population, obesity is in many ways one of the remaining acceptable prejudices.Last week, the #fatshamingweek hastag was trending on Twitter as numerous assholes and shitbags took to the network and decided to mock fat people – mostly women, but men too – from behind the dubious anonymity of their Twitter accounts.Fat romance has little space in popular culture beyond the punchline.
The idea of being a fat person who is happily dating in public creates really strong feelings in people.
Earlier tonight I was perusing the racks of Goodwill while chatting with my friend Isabel over the phone.
As I found a vintage inspired fit-and-flare dress covered in pink elephants, we began discussing our respective dating histories.
Although it started as a way to share awful dating stories, it underwent a natural progression to include fatphobia in healthcare, the workplace, within one’s own family and more.
Countless news outlets covered #Fat Side Stories and it’s clear the tag struck a chord.
More specifically, my sister said: The one thing this particular round of Family Feud does correctly is summarize many of the unfortunate myths our society perpetuates about fat people—specifically, fat men—and relationships.