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Dating an identical twin

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It’s obvious the twins enjoy being completely, exactly, absolutely the same, and if they ever got the chance to fuse bodies and become one individual, I bet they would.Anyway, the disturbingly close sisters clearly share many things, including a passion for plastic surgery, an Instagram account, and a boyfriend. Apparently the twins met Ben on Facebook five years ago, so they finally decided it’s about damn time they get married.

It’s may be no surprise, then, that I am still single.My mother, a psychologist, often wondered if twins have a harder time finding life partners because, essentially, they already have one. This passage from “Twins, who for many years have lived with someone who understood their moods and feelings and who may have intuitively known what they were thinking or what they would like to do, may feel disappointed and cheated if their new partner fails to live up to such standards.”This got me curious.I didn’t think about this question much while I was growing up. So I reached out to my cousin, who is also a twin (yes, twins do seem to run in families, at least in ours) and also single, and asked if she ever felt this way. “I’ve gone from relationship to relationship, not really content.I once read a Wiki-How on "How to Date a Twin (With Pictures)."First off, let's just stop right there. I'm not sure if I should feel offended, or honored that people think twins need their own manual.From my understanding, Wiki-How is a website that offers how-to guides for people who have questions such as "How do I do this? Usually when I think about manuals, I think about products that read "Too hot to handle" or "Dangerous"... Not that I would personally know since I've never dated a twin before, but I've had a front row seat in watching guys try and date my sister.It really bothered me; [my sister’s opinion is] important to me.

It’s hard to settle down with someone if I don’t have the blessing from [my twin].”But of course, you want anyone you care about to like your partner, right? More research led me to this 2012 study on twins and marriage, which says that “twins tend to marry later than non-twins and more twins than singletons remain unmarried,” and “twins have a constant companion from the very beginning and they develop close relationships with one another and, as such, it may be a challenge for twins to find a marriage partner who can compete with the co-twin relationship.”, I thought.

But throw in a second YOU into that already experimental mix, and LAWRD! Usually when I meet other twins, there's an instant friendship born & we immediately dive into twin talk: how similar our experiences growing up have been, what our relationship with our sisters are like, and how there really is this weird "twin bond" we can't explain to other people...

From basic experience and conversations with my new BFFS, one thing I'm confident in is that most guys don't know how to handle "twin bonds".

This may work best when twins are fraternal and of opposite sexes.

Without encouragement, identical twins are especially at risk of losing out on this important part of individualization.

Perhaps one thing you should know about dating a twin is that you should view this person as no different than dating a person of a single birth.